Friday, December 31, 2010

Day 365: Becoming Orgasmic

I have been wracking my brains trying to think of something "big" for my last day but there just isn't much left that I can get rid of. The length of this project turned out to be perfect - just long enough to be challenging yet not unreasonable. I still have objects I need to ship and people I need to meet but I'm satisfied with where this project has taken me. Tomorrow will be the first day in a year that I won't have to account for on this blog.

After struggling with this for months and even calling my mother for her opinion, I have decided to post something personal today. This book is representative of my own journey of self discovery. I'm not sure I spent much time with this particular book but it was books like this that helped me learn to stop worrying and enjoy sex.

It's a delicate balance to talk about meaning without going in to much detail but I want to talk about it a little bit. I think it's important because a better understanding would have saved me years of frustration and thinking I was broken.

I dated my first boyfriend for almost seven years and never reached a point where I was just able to relax. Sex was painful for a long time, more for my boyfriend's enjoyment than me, and I certainly wasn't getting an orgasm from him. The investment in my pleasure was big (usually an hour) and usually made us both uncomfortable. I thought all sorts of things: maybe I was frigid, or something was physically wrong with me. I thought about asking a doctor if there was some sort of medication that would help.

At some point I decided to take matters in to my own hands and took a trip to Babeland for some reading material. I discovered all sorts of things that made me feel better. I learned about most women needing extra stimulation, how to feel more comfortable with my body, the importance of room temperature, and the concept of the plateau (which can take quite a while). All of this information contributed to me feeling better about myself and my pleasure increased proportionately.

I also have a copy of I <3 Female Orgasm available. It is not pictured because I have to retrieve it from my sister's friend.

Status: Dibbed


  1. Want it! I reAlly enjoyed your blog. Can't wait for the next idea! Mbx

  2. Thank you so much for reading! I can't tell you how much I appreciate hearing that :)

    Email me at tenshiemi [at] and we can work out how to get the book to you.

  3. Congratulations, Emily! I'm impressed you made it all the way to the end. Have a great 2011!

  4. Congratulations! I'm impressed by your accomplishment and the integrity with which you have done it. Happy new year!

  5. Congratulations on the end of your project! I love that you have completed your year without falling back on Rule #10, no matter how many times I pleaded. I love that you found so many things that you won't miss in your life and I hope they have opened up space for (a few) things that you will love. I have shared your idea with so many people now, it says so many thing I believe are important about collecting stuff. I am really grateful I got to watch you through this!

    Love, Aurana

  6. Hey Emily,
    Your mom's friend Cindy here. Congratulations on completing a most engaging and practical project. Your writing is a pleasure to read. Best to you in this new year.